wont be adopting

we will tell the social workers thatwe will not be adopting them in Nov due to the problems. We already have discussed this between us, we didnt expect this and were not sure if were the right parents for him.

we also discussed that if they still feel that they want these kids together,we realize it will be very painful to give up the little guy, and i think thats where the fear sets in on getting this child out ofthe house. The little guy clearly loves being with us, everytime we mention that we can visit his foster mom, he says "no, i want to stay here". we try to explain but i think hes scared that he might be moving. The thought of them moving him will devastate him and us. Clearly he has bonded with us, he issuch a sweet little guy, dont get me wrong, he has his issues, but there more managble. He does respond to consequences, and does have respect.

anyway, the weekend is here, which im sure all hell will break loss, he usually doesnt do great on the weekends. We have decided if he does another blow out meltdown, we will call the psych team and get him admitted and then we will deal with the SSW's and what they are going to plan to do.

were just so scared of losing the little guy. anyway, wish us luck.