Thursday, September 11, 2003

another lovely day in the park

yesterday, i took the boys to the park and we were all having a great time, i was helping them swing, then out of the blue, he decided it would be fun to kick me in the eye.

I stopped the swing and took him off, he started tantruming so it was time to go. then later on he said "Im real sorry" and that was the end of it.

However, i sat with him to do his homework for the first time, since the ritalin, and oh my god, he did it with no problems,he stayed pretty focused, that was a miracle.

I called the psych emergency team here in Mass and explained the situation, he said at the next meltdown, get an ambulance and have him admitted into a residential because he needs 24 hour care. which we will do. Were not ready to give up on this kid just yet, of course were worried if by placing him somewhere that he will regress so much that he will never get over this hump. It gets so confusing. We will stick with him because i feel write now, we are his only advocates.

if this was the only child, i think the decisions would be so easy, but his brother loves him so much and i dont know how this will all effect him. I mean they play with each other constantly.

I was referred to this doctor by the name of Ross Greene, he wrote the book, 'The explosive Child',he is here in Boston where we live, i will try to find his number and see what he has to say. We get so drained. Sometimes we feel like were walking on eggshells to aviod a meltdown.

Ive been really realaxed on certain rules, like he loves water, and loves to go in the bathroom sink and fill up baggies with water, for a while, i let him do one baggy, but then it became this major tantrum when i would set that limit, so lately im looking at things differently, really trying to evaluate certain rules.

So what if he gets the floor wet while bringing the water outside. Its really not causing any harm to anyone,(just me, ihave to clean it up). But latly thats what ive been doing, bending alot of things.

But the next tantrum, i will call the psych team and then go from there. I looked up all his DX, RAD, ADHD, PTSD. There is so many conflicting reports, one doctor said that he didnt feel he had any of these just PTSD, that he wasnt hyper at all. BUt im going to follow through with theadvice you guys gave, and lucyjoy and Dr. Art, i am going to find a specialist that deals with or has some background with RAD. HIs mother was DX with bipolar, and ive talked to his psych about that, but they just want his anxiety to lesson so they can figure out whats wrong with him.

I think we had enough of listening to people and were going to just find a spicailist that deals with this stuff. Its just so scary, when we decided to adopt, we never planned for this.

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