suspended again

my younger son got suspended from after school. He apprently used a racist remark in front of a bunch of kids.

we have addressed these remarks at home, but i think because he gets such a huge reaction from us, he feels powerful when he says it.

he learned alot of these words from his brother, and i have no idea on how to stop it.

there are times that i think if i just 'slap' him across the face, that would stop it all.....

we tried time outs, we tried taking away chips, we are not sure what to do anymore....

he will go back to afterschool tomorrow and he will have to write a letter to them to say he is sorry....not sure if that will do anything.

he doesnt even know what these words mean yet....to him they are all just curse words and doesnt understand why some 'curse words' are worse then others.

but we are stumped.......

the good news is that the kids will be starting a group with other kids with attachment issues. I cant wait to see to what the therapist is going to say about my two kids having them together.....lol.

there fine one on one...but put them together, and before you know it...all heck breaks out...so it will be fun....i think.