ahhhh!!!!!!!! school problems

AHHH!!!!!!! school problems

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ok...im just venting....my son just got out of a group home and came to live with us on friday....

one of the requirements that we had, was that he attend an afterschool program. I work full time and need my job in order to have a roof over our heads...

well, i found a great program....i mean great!!!!

we have been on the waiting list, and i finally got him a slot and he started yesterday...HE LOVES IT!!!!

i am so happy....but the peace that is missing, is that he needs transportation there.

I jsut got the call today from the public school, whch he attends, and they said they tried everything, but the school transportation is refusing to bring him there. they said it was out of zone..which i understand...

i tried to explain the importance of this program for him....he is 8 and still is in 1sat grade and hasnt gotten grades to even enter 2nd grade, due to all the problems he has had.

I AM SO ANGRY!!!

can this kid get a break anywhere....every thing this kid needs, i had too jump through 20 hoops just for thing....

i get so made..i work with the justice dept....my clients are drug addicts who are/or were incarcerated....

i can get them services, income, housing...everything they possilbe need...but i cant get an 8 yr old child anything.....

there is something terrible wrong with this country...

i called our mayors office....i am just about ready to explode....

sorry, but i need to vent...well, back on the phone again to call some more people....

i will keep calling to get him what he need....but when it could just be a request of service and he gets the service, i am freaking sick of all this bull crap....

hey, the state took him, the state should pay for this kid to get services

sorry to vent...but i think i had enough of these walls...

oh, here is the clincher....the bus company said to me "well, maybe you can bring him back to the group home until school is over,this way we can give him the transportation because its in the same town...."

WHAT ARE THEY THINKING..... this is a child....not just some inconvience

pull ups now?

pull ups, now?

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hi,

ok....im baffled.

our 8 yr old has moved back in, and i posted this on another thread.

he has been bedwetting over the last month. he stopped doing it for a while, and the guy has been through so much in the last few months that i have not made an issue of this.

I still wont make an issue of this....so please dont post on how i should stop him...i dont care if he does.

but here is what i am asking....

is it ok to ask him to wear a pullup? or will that just crush him.

usually, i get him up in the night to go, only to find he peed everywhere, so he takes his sheets and puts them in his hamper in his room...we get cleaned up and he goes back to bed after i make his bed again.

is pull ups just too much for an 8 yr ld boy? he has not been wearing them for a while now.

could it be true

could it be true?

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id just like to share something that i found so remarkable for my son.

last weekend we brought our sons to go kite flying at the beach. these kites soared through the air and we all had a great time..

well, the other day when my older son was over...i looked through his bookbag to see if he had any homework that he needed to get done. homework is not really a prioty to him, and he wouldnt even think about it unless i went through his bag.

anway, while i was looking, i stumbled on this piece of paper, it must of been a class project or something....he drew a picture of four people flying kites...

and he wrote:

"this is a picture of me and my family at the ocean flying kites. It was a fun day for all of us. "

i nearly died.....he has no idea why i hung it up...but i think he is getting that we are his 'forever family' now.....baby steps..write?

i know it doesnt seem much to alot of people, but it meant the world to us..

bedwetting

bedwetting

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hi all,

well, as most of you know, my older son is finally getting ready to come home....we have been doing alot of sleepovers and dinners and stuff, though still rocky, seems much better then he was.

however, over the last few weeks, he has been peeing at night in our home as well as the group home. the odd thing is, his night terrors has stopped and the bedwetting started...

I usually take him to the bathroom before i go to bed, but it doesnt seem to help like it use to.

he feels real bad about it and doesnt know why it is happening.

here is my question, i am thinking that he is real nervous coming home again and all that goes with it.

He appears to feel real bad about it, and it doesnt appear that he is doing this on purpose. He has tried to cover it up by pulling his sheets off his bed and throwing them in the hamper, but then he sleeps on the mattress.

i know there are different opinions on wet bedding, but im willing to listen.

part of me thinks i should just ignore it, put clean sheets in his room and dont talk about it...

then the other part of me, which i did, is discuss it a little, with no shame attached, and just kinda made his bed with new sheets.

im pretty set on not making this an issue write now, but just looking for some others with some experience with this kind of situation.

respite?

respite?

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hi all,

well, im pooped....lol. We have adopted two boys with 'some'
issues. Had them for about 1 1/2 yrs now.

we are from hyde park in Boston, and looking for play dates, respite, or just hang out with other adults with special needs kids. Just let the kids go crazy in a park, where we can sit and breath and maybe have a cup of coffee...lol.

Is that asking to much?....

our kids have just turned 6 and 8. We dont care if your gay,
lesbian, straight, single....we just need a break now and
then!!!!....lol.

IM sure there are others that can use a break too.

i know its an odd request, especially from the internet, but we cant seem to find any thing. will you be our friend?.....lol

im sure there are other people out there in the same situation. My kids are great...honestly.....lol.

seriously, just looking for others in somewhat of the same situation we are in.

I belong to an AFT support group, but mostly their kids
are older or younger, or girls. my younger one doesnt like the girls yet....lol

anyway, id just throw that request out there.

also, does anyone know where to get a babysitter from? I know it sounds weird, but we cant find one. we have our single friends
babysit sometimes, but im looking for someone more consistant.

I put an ad on the BU internet, but i havnt gotten a bite. Any ideas?

We need a break....its been a while.....lol

we are not crazy people, well, it depends on who you ask...

medication question

medication question

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as most know, my son was put on cylexa. however, the insurance wouldnt cover that, so they switched it to luvox.

i started him on it saturday night (its suppose to given before bed) so yesterday, tuesday, he had a little issue at preschool, throwing his pretzels around and then at the teacher.

then at night, he tantrumed for about 45 minutes because i didnt let him watch his favorite tv show (every show is his favorite)

he has been snapping more then usual with "i hate you" "youre mean" "i dont love you anymore"

He says these alot, but it has been constant the last couple of days.

however, he falls asleep easier and get up with no problems at all, where before we would have to drag him out of bed because he went to bed so late.

heres my question, could these be side effect after a couple of days, i know they say wait two weeks. Or is it just him being him and it was just a bad day which he has had in the past.

any idea? I might be looking to hard around side effects.

update

update

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hi all,

just thought id give you an update on my older son. well, our visit didnt go so well today.

i decided to take them to the movies. He asked if he can play videos and then have play time.

i told him that there was no time for videos, but after the movie, we can have play time.

well, that ended up being a 20 min screaming match...only on his part......i just sat there.

then after the movie, i brought him home and told him we only had 15 min of play time because i had to bring him back. He went in his room to look for toys and couldnt find anything to play with. Then i said from the other room "you have 8 minutes left..."

then he started yelling again.

I told him to relax, and he is running out of time.....then he said "NO!!! ill leave when im ready and shut up!!" He did the "I hate you" stuff...

then i calmed him down and brought him back. Not really sure what happened. He gets in this mind set....and doesnt seem to be able to get out of it.

i ended up picking him up and sitting him on my knee and talked to him, and he calmed down...

but the kid just told me to shut up and i am picking him up and hugging him.......'attachment issue'

i dont know...sad day here, it was going so well for a while. He will be doing a sleep over next weekend. maybe he is nervous about it, but i dont think thats it.